The Duke of  Edinburgh has died, Buckingham Palace has announced – and at 99 years of age, Philip wasn’t just a father and grandfather but a great-grandfather too.

While the Queen and the Duke of Edinburgh’s children and grandchildren are all adults and able to understand his death, the fact the jovial Duke is no longer around will be much more difficult for his seven young great-grandchildren to grasp.

Explaining why the very youngest royals will no longer see their great-granddad falls to their parents, of course, who are already trying to deal with their own grief.

But it’s something that can crop up for many families, and knowing how to approach it can feel tricky. Here, Andy Langford – chief operating officer at  Cruse Bereavement Care, which offers support and advice to both children and adults when someone close to them dies – shares some tips on the best ways to explain the death of a close family member to children.

1. Don’t use confusing metaphors

When telling a young child that a close relative has died it’s important to avoid using metaphors like, ‘They’ve gone to sleep’ or, ‘Gone away for a long time’, as they can be very confusing for a young child to understand.

“Try and plan in advance some clear and practical language that’s age-appropriate for the child to understand,” suggests Langford. “It might sound blunt to other adults, but in the long-term it will be easier for the child.”

2. Give children space

Langford points out that each bereavement is unique and children grieve in different ways.

“It’s important to give children space to grieve, but they should also be encouraged to talk about their thoughts and feelings,” he says. “Don’t be alarmed if your child doesn’t look like they’ve been affected by the death of a close relative. Children can’t sustain emotional pain in the way that adults can and tend to move in and out of grief.”

3. Don’t hide your griefIt’s important that the child’s parents are open about their own feelings and grief, explains Langford. “If they try to hide it, the child will feel like they aren’t able to talk about it and might suppress their feelings which isn’t healthy.”

4. Be prepared for questionsOften children will have questions not just about the person that’s died, but also about death in general. This might be the first time the child has been affected by death, so naturally questions will arise. “These can often be quite difficult to answer, especially as the parent or caregiver is also grieving,” says Langford. “Our advice is to try and be as honest as you can to try to help the child understand what has happened.”

5. Remember them in a creative wayChildren can find writing their feelings down in a poem, diary or in a letter to the relative who’s died helpful. Some children might also find it beneficial to paint, draw or build a model to express their feelings of grief and show how much the person who’s died meant to them.

“Children and young people tell us that creating a memory box can also be an effective way to remember all the happy times they spent with the person who’s died,” adds Langford.

For advice and support after a bereavement, call the Cruse national helpline on 0808 808 1677.