Life in lockdown: How to boost your body confidence
Are you feeling less confident about your looks now than you were a year ago? You are not alone.
According to research by fashion brand Snag, 34% of people say their body confidence has taken a hit during lockdown, rising to 40% among under-25s, while make-up and skincare range No7 found that more than 55% of women believe their skin has aged by up to five years over the course of the pandemic.
A survey carried out by the Society of Plastic Surgeons found the most in-demand post-lockdown treatments are wrinkle smoothing, breast augmentation and dermal fillers, with two fat-reducing treatments completing the top five.
– Why has body confidence fallen during the pandemic?
Body confidence expert Astrid Longhurst, author of Romancing Your Body, said: “Covid-19 and the lockdown period has brought with it a whole host of body image and confidence-related issues for both women and men.”
She puts this down, in part, to people seeing themselves on video calls as well as having fewer of the usual distractions of normal life.
“Combine this with reduced physical activity, increased screen time – which has exposed us to many more images of perceived body ideals through the media, lack of sleep due to anxiety, and more focus on how we look due to the demand for video meetings, and we have a recipe for a national body confidence breakdown,” she said.
Ms Longhurst added that people have been “living in a low-grade stress response for over a year”, meaning their coping skills are compromised.
“This hypervigilance can also extend to how we view and perceive our own bodies, with many people becoming more aware of their wrinkles, weight, age, shape, fitness, and overall health in a negative way,” she said.
Here, she offers her advice on how to regain your confidence and learn to love your body.
– Listen deeply to your life
Practising mindfulness can help you to “move away from focusing on what your body looks like and on to what life feels like”, Ms Longhurst says.
“Listen to the rain outside your window, the birds singing, the trees rustling in the breeze, the sound of children playing, the kettle boiling, the shower water flowing, your loved ones talking, your favourite music playing and your own heart whispering to you about what feels right.”
– Wipe away worry
Physical actions combined with self-compassion can help to reframe negative thoughts.
Ms Longhurst says: “Gently rub both hands together, bring them up to your face and smooth both hands over your skin upwards in a loving movement. Imagine that you are wiping away any worry or stress-related lines or wrinkles.”
– Hug your negative feelings
“Although it might seem contradictory to welcome or hug a negative feeling, it actually helps to diminish their power,” Ms Longhurst says. “Imagine you are opening your arms out to give a good friend or loved one a hug and then fold the negative feeling into your chest as you embrace it.
“Breathe into the feeling and say in your head ‘It’s all OK, thank you for being here. I’ve heard you now and you’re safe’. No negative feeling can remain if you are not resisting it.”
– Look for the wonderful
Using the “glass half full” approach is a great way to focus on what is good about your life, and your body, instead of getting bogged down in a pessimistic spiral.
“Every day, ask the question ‘How wonderful can things get?'” Ms Longhurst says. “This simple little question primes the mind to go looking for answers that show you just how wonderful life can be.”
– Choose gratitude
Even if you’re not yet brimming with body positivity, by repeating self-affirming words, you can manifest the confidence you desire.
“Make positive, grateful statements or affirmations for having already achieved all that you want in the ‘now’ tense,” Ms Longhurst says.
“For example, ‘I’m so grateful that I am full of health and vitality’, or ‘My body is my greatest friend. I trust her completely’. Read your new life script every day and allow yourself to really feel the joy of how this would feel.”
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