27 October 2020

Model Emily Ratajkowski already talking ‘dilemmas’ as she contemplates birth of her first child

Model and actress Emily Ratajkowski has announced she is expecting her first child with producer husband Sebastian Bear-McClard.

The 29 year-old revealed the news in a video for Vogue magazine which includes intimate shots of Ratajkowski showing off her bump.

On the question of the baby’s gender, she said: “We like to respond that we won’t know the gender until our child is 18 and that they’ll let us know then. Everyone laughs at this.

"There is a truth to our line, though, one that hints at possibilities that are much more complex than whatever genitalia our child might be born with: the truth that we ultimately have no idea who – rather than what – is growing inside my belly. 

“Who will this person be? What kind of person will we become parents to? How will they change our lives and who we are? This is a wondrous and terrifying concept, one that renders us both helpless and humbled.”

She added she has worries about having a boy or a girl. 

Ratajkowski said Bear-McClard, who she married in 2018, told her about having a girl: “I do worry a girl will have a lot to live up to as your daughter.”

And she said about having a boy: “I’ve known far too many white men who move through the world unaware of their privilege, and I’ve been traumatised by many of my experiences with them.

“And boys too; it’s shocking to realise how early young boys gain a sense of entitlement – to girls’ bodies and to the world in general. I’m not scared of raising a ‘bad guy,’ as many of the men I’ve known who abuse their power do so unintentionally. 

“But I’m terrified of inadvertently cultivating the carelessness and the lack of awareness that are so convenient for men. It feels much more daunting to create an understanding of privilege in a child than to teach simple black-and-white morality. 

“How do I raise a child who learns to like themself while also teaching them about their position of power in the world?”

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